Swingers: Female Confidential – Ashley Lister
If I’m going to read non-fiction, it’s got to be something very interesting to keep me reading. And Swingers: Female Confidential certainly resides in the ‘interesting’ category. Freelance writer Ashley Lister came across the same question again and again in research for other works – “Why do women swing?” Therefore he set out to find the answer.
Through numerous meetings and interviews with women of all ages and backgrounds, the author of this fascinating book set out to answer the question once and for all. The contributors, who have remained anonymous throughout, have been incredibly honest about their swinging lifestyle. How they were introduced to the scene, why they were up for it, and how it has changed their lives. The book provides an extraordinary insight into the lifestyle, and I believe it can teach a thing or two to those who thought they knew it all! For example, I did think swinging was just couples swapping and changing. But that’s not true at all – it’s basically used as a blanket term. People involved include: couples (of course), and single men and women looking to get involved with those couples. But without being too graphic, there are lots of sexual acts which go on (you’ll have to read the book to find out what I’m talking about!) which are classed as swinging – dogging being one of them. The women in the book have had good experiences and bad experiences, but the great thing to read was that none of them were pressured. It was something they got into of their own accord, and by the most part, they love it. I’m a huge believer in each to their own, and at the end of the day if everyone’s happy, what’s the problem?
The book kept me interested from beginning to end. Even for those who have no intention of ever getting involved in the scene, if you have an open mind about sex, I’m sure you’ll find this captivating. I certainly did. Shocking statistics include: Did you know that up to 60% of country parks in the UK have played host to dogging at some point in their history? Well, I’ll certainly keep my eyes peeled when I’m wandering around in the countryside in future. And when I see couples meeting other couples in pubs I might start eavesdropping on their conversations to see if they have a naughty night planned! Just kidding.
Anyway, if you’re interested in learning more about this aspect of recreational sex, you can’t go wrong with this book. Swingers: Female Confidential is a real eye-opener. Other potential markets are those already into the scene and perhaps looking to introduce a new partner. The positive spin on the lifestyle in this book would certainly do wonders to persuade people with any doubts! An excellent read – though perhaps not for the beach!