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Eroticon 2014 – What a Weekend! #eroticon2014 @writesexright

**warning, epic blog post ahead**

badgesFirst, I apologise in advance for any typos or anything that doesn’t quite make sense in this post. I am still totally knackered as I write this post, but it was utterly worth it.

This year, Eroticon took place in Bristol. Even before arriving it promised to be an awesome weekend as seven of the eight Brit Babes (me, K D Grace, Kay Jaybee, Lily Harlem, Victoria Blisse, Lexie Bay and Tabitha Rayne) were in attendance, as well as lots of other good writing buddies, respected colleagues and all-round fun and interesting folk. I shall skip over the journeys as nothing of interest happened except for two very chatty taxi drivers and me very nearly throwing a wobbly on a crowded train. *ahem*

Lucy and VicOn arrival in Bristol, it was a quick check in, a dash to the room where Lexie Bay had already turned it into a branch of Boots – such was the number of cosmetics and hair care products. After a freshen up and a change of clothes, I headed to Lily Harlem‘s room where everyone else was gathered nibbling goodies and drinking bubbles. Hugs and catching up ensued, before we headed to a restaurant called Browns to eat delicious food, drink delicious drink and earn sidelong looks from fellow diners and staff as we discussed everything from anal fisting to golden showers. We even left a Brit Babes business card on the little plate along with the payment for our bill, adding cheeky to our list of misdemeanours!

Next, a gathering in the hotel bar, where we continued to traumatise other folk, I suspect. By this point we were so engrossed in our conversations that we didn’t care. The night wore on, though, as it is wont to do, until there were three. Finally, Lily, Lexie and I admitted defeat and headed to bed, where Lexie and I chatted about all sorts of rubbish until the wee hours.

Lucy and booksSaturday dawned bright and way too early. I met Victoria and Kev Blisse for breakfast, then we headed to the venue to get the book stall set up and organised. I’m not much of a morning person so it allowed me to be busy without having to provide stimulating conversation. As time went on, more folk arrived, hugs and kisses were given, new introductions were made and then Eroticon started officially with the first session. I stayed on the book stall for a while, not venturing into a session until good buddies Victoria and K D Grace gave their talk on sex and spirituality in the afternoon, by which point I was awake enough to venture some opinions and even got a laugh. Not bad.

VictoriaThen it was back out into the thick of things, grabbing conversations here and there, learning new things and taking frantic notes. I always find at these events that the networking and the random chats are just as informative and useful as the official talks and workshops. This was definitely no exception. I always like learning new things, and given how many awesome brains were around for me to pick, I came away very enriched.

BB tableSaturday evening and night is a little bit of a blur. Not because of alcohol, I hasten to add (it takes a lot more than a single vodka and coke to render me drunk!), but because tiredness hit big style. I readily admit I’m not the most fun person when tired, so I stayed quiet, especially for me, and hid with Victoria and Kev Blisse who know what I’m like and (hopefully) don’t think any less of me for it! Bed was a necessity, given the two talks I was taking part in were on Sunday. And sleep…

Another yummy breakfast was had on Sunday (many thanks to Molly’s Daily Kiss for the tip!) and we scuttled to the venue, getting uber organised as Victoria, Kev and I had to dash off as soon as our last talk was finished to start our journeys home. I still managed chats with lots of people, including Fran and Paul from House of Erotica, where we discussed devious future plans and awesome stuff. Watch this space.

stepuptalkIt was soon time for mine and Kay Jaybee’s talk on making the move from short stories to novels (as soon as I get chance, I’ll collate our notes and make them available, either here or on the Eroticon site). We were a tad paranoid nobody would turn up as we were in the same time slot as the awesome Kristina Lloyd. Much to our relief and delight we had plenty of bums on seats. What’s more, they were very interested in what we had to say, asked lots of questions, volunteered opinions and were a bunch of very engaged and awesome folk. We didn’t get through everything we’d planned to, but we’ve had very positive feedback from the attendees, saying we’ve inspired and helped them. Naturally, this makes me very happy and I’m really glad we gave the talk. If you’re reading this, thank you very much for joining in with us, and get writing those novels! 😉

The day flew past, and there was more talking, even more plans made, including lots from The Brit Babes. Between us, it’s going to be a very exciting year and beyond. I can’t wait. World domination is within our grasp.

smutigosNext up was the Blisse Guide to Smut. This comprised of myself, Victoria Blisse, Kev Blisse, Kay Jaybee and K D Grace. We were the last two hour session so folk (including us) were winding down and energy was waning, but it didn’t matter. We still had a great session, covering everything from bad cover letters to upcoming anthologies. Kay Jaybee gave a great mini-presentation on inspiration, where she headed around the room with a Paddington Bear bag (I kid you not!) asking folk to pull items out and come up with an idea based on that item. Some ideas were better than others, but it’s very hard when you’re put on the spot! Again, this was another successful session as I’ve had tweets and messages from folk who were inspired and are looking to submit to future anthologies – I look forward to reading the smutty tales!

kayinspirationIt literally was a case of closing the last session and running out as our taxi was waiting outside, so goodbyes were either super brief or non-existent. But this is why social media is so fantastic. The conference carried on for hours after I’d left on the Twitter hashtag so it kind of felt like I was still there for a while.

As is always the way with these events, the time goes incredibly quickly, there’s never enough time to talk to everyone you want to talk to, and if you do talk to them, it’s not for long enough. But I managed to put some faces to names, catch up with folk I don’t see very often, hatch plans with friends new and old, learn new things and even impart some knowledge of my own. All in all, another fantastic Eroticon event put together by Ruby Kiddell – well done, that woman! There’s no Eroticon in the UK in 2015, but based on the conversations I’ve had over the past few days, I think there are going to be other events that will make up for it. Starting with Smut by the Sea on the 14th June. Now one conference is done, I can start thinking about the next. I can’t wait!

Happy Reading,

Lucy x

P.S. Fantastic news today. Stately Pleasures is in the February Read of the Month poll on the Smile, Somebody Loves You website. Would LOVE your votes if you’re so inclined, as the competition is FIERCE! http://sslyblog.wordpress.com/2014/03/10/february-read-of-the-month-poll/ – thank you! x

Eroticon 2013 – What Really Happened

Wow… how to write this post without making it longer than the average short story?! I guess I’ll keep it short and to the point, and of course, the photos will speak a thousand words… or something. I am still exhausted from a fabulous weekend, and therefore my brain is not firing on all cylinders. Probably not any, actually. So, here goes:

davethebearFriday night:

Not part of the conference, but a fabulous night out with K D Grace, Victoria Blisse, Lily Harlem, Tabitha Rayne, Lexie Bay, Kay Jaybee and myself. K D Grace organised a trip to the Volupte Lounge in the City of London. We had a delicious dinner in Belushi’s first of all, then headed off for some burlesque. And it was brilliant. I’m afraid the names of the performers escape me (though I suspect K D Grace will have them all listed in her write-up), with one exception. Dave the Bear. Yes, Dave. A man, who kayboozeperformed some boylesque. For me, he was the highlight. He was very funny, sexy and totally bonkers. Our table laughed, cheered, whistled and whooped throughout, and also very much enjoyed Stefan, a rather attractive young man who was dragged onto the stage and made into the partner of a Russian ballerina – who happened to be a man. For the sake of brevity, I’ll just say this was a night full of friendship, giggles and fun. And Kay Jaybee with her first shot – a Butterball, which was delicious.


So – conference time. A very tired bunch of smut writers made their way from their hotel to the conference, popping into Waterloo station for some food and drinks first. I attended the opening speech, Brook’s speech on sexual health and contraception (which I found fascinating, and am hoping to have one of the members on my blog at some point), then Kristina Lloyd’s creative writing workshop. I’d never met Kristina before, so like the fangirl I am, I asked her to sign one of her books for me, which she very graciously did after the workshop. During, though, there was no time for autographs – it was a packed session which produced a hilarious outcome. We had spreadsheets with differently coloured blocks, and we had to write various things in the boxes. For example:

Name four things that sparkle:

  • Edward Cullen
  • Stars
  • Ice
  • Snow

It was early in the morning (especially for me, I’m not at all a morning person), which is my only excuse for the first answer. But it did make me giggle. Our homework is to write something containing some of the words and elements we came up with. Hopefully I’ll be able to get to that soon.

Then came refreshments, and I ended up not going to any of the sessions because I was too busy chatting with people, both people I already knew, and those I was lucky enough to meet. Next came Remittance Girl’s workshop, which was more theoretical than Kristina’s, but incredibly thought provoking, and left me with many thoughts whizzing around my head.

Afterwards came lunch, and I accidentally got chatting and ended up  missing the next session, because I didn’t want to walk in late – oops! But some fantastic conversations were had – not least one with Mario Cacciottolo, who runs the Someone Once Told Me website, which is a fabulous idea – check it out to see what it’s all about. It turned out we both went to the University at Derby (though not at the same time) and actually had one of the same lecturers – what a small world!


Soon, many people were flagging, including myself, so me, Victoria Blisse, Lexie Bay, Lily Harlem and Tabitha Rayne headed over to see the Sh! Girlz. Tabitha had never met them before, so it was a very exciting experience for her, and of course I’m always delighted to see the ladies, especially since Renee, Jo and Shelly were there. So it was hugs all round, some signing of books, some giggles, some purchasing, then we reluctantly went on our way – via a pub – to go and get something to eat. I led the girls from London Bridge Tube station to Gourmet Burger Kitchen on Clink Street without consulting a map, impressing them all 😀 After feeding our faces, we headed back to the hotel and nattered until almost one in the morning. Which leads me to…


Even more tired, we headed –  bags and all, as most of us went home straight after the conference – back to the venue. Victoria and I were on the first panel, about anthologies, so we had to liven up. Thankfully we managed it (Victoria is fine with mornings, luckily, so she chivvied me along!) and had a great panel with Rachel Kramer Bussel and Maxim Jakubowski with lots of varied and fun questions, which I hope we answered successfully.

Again, lots of networking and chatting was done, and so I didn’t attend any more sessions until the afternoon, which was K D Grace’s creative writing workshop. She’s my friend, so I admit I am biased, but it was excellent, interesting and very informative. I got a little bit of my novella written, so I came away with something to work on, too.

Sadly, it was then time to go. A huge round of goodbyes were made at the venue, then some of us headed to Waterloo station, where another round of goodbyes were made. I then headed onto the Northern Line to St. Pancras, and eventually, home. I was so knackered it was a struggle not to fall asleep on the train, but I managed it. Just.


The tiredness was absolutely worth it. Writing is such a solitary business that it’s absolutely fantastic to be able to  meet up with like minded people and chat, share ideas, and just generally have fun. I don’t regret missing some of the sessions, purely because the time I spent meeting new people and being with ones I already knew was invaluable. Sadly, I didn’t get to meet everyone I wanted to, but I checked a few off the list, which I’m very pleased about. And there’s always next year to meet the rest. I can’t wait! Well done, Ruby Kiddell – you pulled it off again, and it was even better than last year. Roll on Smut by the Sea!


Eroticon 2013 Meet & Greet

Name: Lucy Felthouse

Twitter id: @cw1985

Must attend Eroticon 2013 session: Not sure yet!

Bloggers you’d like to be trapped in the lift with: K D Grace, Kay Jaybee, Lily Harlem, Victoria Blisse and Lexie Bay, as they’re my buddies!

Erotic writer you’d like to write dramatize your life story: I’d do it myself as I know me best 😉 Though I’m not sure my life is interesting enough to be dramatised…

Expected biggest fangirl / fanboy moment: Probably meeting Ashley Lister and Emily Dubberley – I “know” them both via the internet, but have never met them!

What keeps you awake at nights? Absolutely nothing. I love my sleep!

See who else is coming to Eroticon 2013 in the Meet & Greet link up

Are You Going To Eroticon 2013?

Eroticon 2013Did you know? I’ll be helping sex bloggers and erotica writers write sex right at Eroticon 2013

I’ll be speaking at Eroticon 2013, the UK’s only sex blogger and erotica writer’s conference.  The conference, on 2nd and 3rd March at London’s Southbank will bring together the best in the UK erotica and sex blogging scene to learn, discuss and network.

I’m on a panel discussing anthologies, alongside Victoria Blisse, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Maxim Jakubowski. I’m looking forward to that – and the rest of the conference of course – very much.

Ruby Kiddell, founder of Eroticon explained more about the conference:

“The success of Eroticon 2012 was amazing and so when the delegates told me they wanted a bigger event I couldn’t say no.  For 2013 there is more of everything; more creative workshops, discussion sessions, sex education and activism sessions.  Eroticon 2013 will be amazing!”

Eroticon 2012 was the first event of its kind and at least three unpublished writers walked away with publishing contracts from the event which makes Eroticon 2013’s the must attend event for aspiring and experienced erotica writers and sex bloggers.

To find out more about Eroticon 2013 or to book tickets please visit http://www.writesexright.com

Eroticon 2013, the UK’s only sex blogger and erotica writers’ conference is on 2nd and 3rd of March, Coin Street Neighbourhood Centre, Coin Street, Southbank, London.

Eroticon 2013 Speakers include:

  • Meg Barker
  • Victoria Blisse
  • Dr. Petra Boynton
  • Brook charity
  • Les Browne
  • Ruth Browne
  • Matt Christie
  • Hazel Cushion
  • Cressida Downing
  • Emily Dubberly
  • Marissa Elliott
  • Lucy Felthouse
  • Cindy Gallop
  • Remittance Girl
  • Ruby Goodnight
  • K D Grace
  • Justin Hancock
  • High Tea Cast
  • Maxim Jakubowski
  • Ruby Kiddell
  • Michael Knight
  • Rachel Kramer Bussel
  • Ashley Lister
  • Kristina Lloyd
  • Zoe Margolis
  • Molly Moore
  • Indigo Moore
  • Nymphomaniac Ness
  • Vena Ramphal
  • Violet Rose
  • Maureen Scott
  • Lori Smith
  • John Tisbury
  • Indigo Moore

Hopefully I’ll see you there! 🙂

Multi Faceted People

This blog post has been floating around in my mind for a couple of weeks now, but what with the mad rush in the lead up to Eroticon and several other bits and pieces going on, I haven’t had chance to do it justice.

Now is the time. And actually, I’m glad now that I’m writing this piece after Eroticon because some of the things I learned and conversations I had will add to it.

I’ve blogged about this to an extent in guest posts on other sites, but I don’t think I’ve ever actually covered it here, which is mad, when you think about it. I want to have a little rant on my own website!

I suppose I’d better tell you what I’m talking about, hadn’t I?

It’s about erotica and erotic romance writers being multi faceted people. If you’re one of those writers, I suspect you’re now sitting there nodding and knowing pretty much where this post is going to go. You might even stop reading. But I want to get it off my chest, so there you have it.

Woman in PVCThis issue came up again a couple of weeks ago when I had a very interesting evening. I ended up sitting in a pub with two other erotic writers, an erotic artist and the erotic artist’s partner. Naturally, much of the conversation was about erotica writing and art, but it was also about other writing, other art. We all laughed at the reactions we’d probably get from the people around us if we stood up and announced what we did – but to be honest, none of us were all that bothered.

Why? Because we knew that despite what other people may think, there is so much more to us than erotica. It was proven in other topics we covered: litter, the outdoors, the environment, Pinterest, QR Codes, metalwork, moving house, divorce, children, health, pets… you get the idea. I’m sure I haven’t even mentioned half of what we chatted about. But the fact is we sat and chatted about a ton of things, despite the fact that the thing that had brought us together in the first place was erotica. None of us were sitting there in PVC clothing (though what the others were wearing underneath their clothes, I don’t know, nor do I want to!), wielding whips and trying to hump the nearest thing that moved. Because we’re just normal people – albeit with a fascinating facet of our lives. And, just because we write such naughty stories, doesn’t mean we live them.

I shouldn’t complain too much, because I know most people (including myself) are guilty of putting others into boxes, whatever their profession. We stereotype people – and we shouldn’t. Not all accountants are suit and spectacle-wearing bores with calculators in their pockets. Not all librarians are dowdy, spectacle-wearing, wouldn’t-say-boo-to-a-goose types. Not all builders have their arses hanging out and whistle and leer at every woman walking past.

FiremenNot all firemen are hot. (Sadly)

This topic fermented further in my mind last weekend, when I spent time with even more erotica writing people. Yes, we were at a gathering called Eroticon and that was our primary common interest. But once the day was over and we went off for dinner, drinks and chat, we didn’t just talk about erotica and sex. Of course, we talked about it – quite a bit actually. But again, we covered so many other topics – the craft of writing, our pasts, our education, how we met our other halves, pets (especially guinea pigs – just ask Victoria Blisse), children, policemen (several kept wandering in and out of the hotel lobby), travel, the outdoors, hot guys, careers, postmen, greengrocers and much more.

WritingWe didn’t draw any attention from the people around us, and nor did we want to. We just wanted to chat freely about whatever the hell we wanted – so we did. Writing took up much of our time, mainly because in our day to day lives, we don’t have people we can sit face to face with and discuss it in length. We all email regularly, but it’s not the same as sitting down at a table and chatting about the thing we love so much – which is also the thing that brought us together.

OutdoorsAnd that’s the beauty of the get togethers. They may be infrequent, but they’re always fun and we have some of the most interesting conversation.

But not, as so many people may think, just about sex and erotica. There’s so much more to us than that. We’re multi faceted, and the people that don’t ‘get’ it will do well to remember that.

I know that if you’re here (and still reading!!) that I’m preaching to the converted, but it was on my mind and it wanted to come out. So I let it. I’m all done now. Much better 😉

Eroticon Meet and Greet

Here’s my info for the Eroticon Meet and Greet link up:

Name: Lucy Felthouse
Blog: https://lucyfelthouse.co.uk
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/cw1985
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/lucyfelthousewriter
Height: 5″4
Eyes: Green/blue
Hair: Brown
Describe yourself in three words: Busy, driven, happy
What are you looking foward to at Eroticon? All of it! A new experience, meeting new people, networking, having fun
What’s on your Lovehoney wishlist? Things that buzz….
What song would you add to the Eroticon playlist? I think mine’s already on there, Time is Running Out by Muse

See who else is coming to Eroticon 2012 in the Meet & Greet link up